Reprieve/Regret & ADHD

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Symptoms of ADHD in Women — Verywell Mind

With ADHD, it may feel like each day is spent responding to requests and limiting disasters rather than moving forward with your goals. You may feel crushing sadness and frustration that you haven’t met your potential. Other daily struggles may include:

  • Overspending: You often overspend to compensate for other problems. For example, when you don’t have a clean outfit to wear for an office party, you buy a new one. Or when you forget someone’s birthday, you buy an expensive present to make up for it. Shopping trips make you feel better in the moment, but you feel regretful later when the credit card bill arrives.
  • Disorganization: You may spend a lot of time, money, and research on products to help you be more organized, but then you don’t use them. You may feel embarrassed to have guests visit your home because it’s so cluttered and disorganized.
  • Indecision: Grocery stores overwhelm you, and you may find it hard to make decisions about what to buy. You often forget a key ingredient for a meal even though you take longer in the store than most people do.

Co-Occurring Conditions

Other conditions can also be present along with ADHD. When you have more than one condition, they are called comorbid conditions or coexisting conditions. Here are some conditions that women often have in addition to their ADHD:1

  • Anxiety disorders, such as social anxiety disorder (SAD) or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • Sleep disorders
  • Eating disorders, such as anorexia or bulimia
  • Mood disorders, like depression or bipolar disorder

Symptoms of Inattention

Children and adults who are inattentive have difficulty staying focused and attending to tasks that they perceive as mundane. Because of this, they may procrastinate doing work that requires a great deal of mental energy. Other symptoms of inattention include:

  • Shift from one activity to another and get bored easily
  • Appear forgetful and even spacey or confused
  • Makes careless mistakes
  • Struggles to stay on task and pay attention
  • Difficulty following instructions, finishing projects, and staying on-task
  • Trouble organizing tasks.
  • Loses belongings frequently

Other ADHD Symptoms

In addition to the official symptoms, there are additional ADHD symptoms that many children and adults experience. While these symptoms are not taken into account during the diagnosis process, they frequently affect the quality of people’s lives.

  • They are often accused of not trying or not appearing to care. They seem to underachieve in areas of life where they have a lot of potential and talent, such as academics, their profession, athletics, or managing finances.
  • They can be very forgetful of things ranging from important people’s birthdays, taking out the trash, or handing in homework (even when it has been completed).
  • They face financial problems, even if they earn an above-average wage. Impulsive spending and forgetting to pay bills can cause problems.
  • They love caffeine. It might be a standing joke among friends how much coffee or energy drinks they consume.
  • They have significant problems with sleep. Getting to sleep, staying asleep, and waking up on time does not happen quickly.
  • They do not trust themselves to do what they say they will. They worry about many things, including things they might have forgotten to do. Because of this, they often have low self-esteem after years of not meeting their own and other people’s expectations.



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